I talk about this so much in real life and here as well, but I still can’t fathom how in the world people expect other people to not do what is meant for them just because they’re scared of getting their spot stolen.
There are so many things we as human beings do wrong but the one we all do is compete with each other. The only difference is that some people are better at stopping themselves and letting other people shine. We all have chances. We all have places to take. But I don’t believe that there is only one spot. We all have one everywhere. There’s a matter of choice whether we decide to take it or not. Everything is based on choice in this world. We choose what we wear in the morning, what perfume we put on, what classes we take and what road to follow. And we work for it in a way or another.
When I talked to my mom about this, she said something along the lines of “if the person was really good at what they do, they wouldn’t be scared of being kicked out of their place”. And that’s true. This crazy competition is only in our minds. And it’s mostly with ourselves. I know that if I am good at something, I rise to any sort of expectations that I build for myself and that other people build for me. That’s why to me, competitions are never really with the people around me. They’re with me. If I know I’m good enough but I don’t work towards it, I don’t get mad when other people take the first place. Because I know it’s my own fault.
All this probably comes because my mom raised me saying “if you work hard enough for something and do whatever is in your power to do, your job is done. The rest is in the universe’s hands.” And I believe that to my core these days because I had both the experiences of me working hard enough and getting what I want, or not getting what I want, or simply not working hard enough.
So whoever is reading this, stop competing with other people. No one’s gonna steal your place if it’s truly yours. No one is gonna take anything from you if it’s yours. People all have their places in the world. Stop moaning, crying and believe in yourself and work for everything you want to have. No one’s gonna hand it to you out of thin air.